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Sep 15 2013

You’ll Never Walk Alone: the importance of Godly friendship

I had the best of intentions to continue with writing my latest weekly installment of The Rest Series that God has prompted me to share here on the blog.  Then life happened – has been happening – and tonight, God has prompted my heart to change course with this post.

I pray that you are blessed in reading it and that it encourages your heart.

 

I need thee

 

I don’t know about you, but my life can get hard sometimes.  Stress, sickness, and responsibilities can sometimes overwhelm me and I start to run the risk of drowning in the daily struggle of it all.  I dig in my heels and continue to press forward, but I can sometimes feel very alone in my life as a Christian woman on the front lines of battle standing strong in faith for my marriage, children, and even in my own personal walk with God.

I have always been the leader, the Bible study teacher, and the one who prayed for others.  I hesitated to share my struggle with others.  I don’t know why, but I felt like I needed to guard myself and stay safely on the other side of openness and  vulnerability.

I am sad to think of all the years I walked my Christian journey as a Lone Rangeress, leading others and shouldering their burdens, while being overwhelmed with the hidden things I kept to myself.

 

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love

 

It’s only been within this last year or so that I have learned how much I needed a friend to be there for me, praying for me, encouraging me to stay strong and to always look to God to help me in the battles I face on the battlefield of my life.  

So many times I have had this special person reach out to me, knowing that I needed a word, a prayer, a gesture of friendship at that moment to get the conversation started that would allow me to open up and share my heart.

I don’t take for granted that safe place - 

of understanding, 

support, 

encouragement, 

and prayer.

 

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After another one of our talks tonight, I got to thinking:  how many of us Christian ladies are walking our journey as a Lone Rangeress?  How many of us are afraid to open up, to look like we don’t have it all together, how sometimes we fall short and make mistakes – to be in that scary place of vulnerability?

My precious friend – it’s not easy to be in a place of admitting you need help, support, encouragement, or even prayer sometimes – but what an amazing place that can be!

 It is there that you can experience how others can bless and be there for you, their presence making the difference in the unspoken moments of your life.  Now, you are not walking alone, but slowly and surely you learn to feel and welcome the gentle but strong hands of support through the friendship of another. 

women-praying-together.jpgHaving that support can make all the difference

in our little corner of the world…..

God did not create us to be walking the Christian life alone; He brings people into our lives to bring us help to bear our burdens and not give up!

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Is this something that you know God is prompting you to develop in your life?  Do you need to get real with someone, seeking support and accountability to walk with firmer steps into the life and calling God has put upon you?

Be faithful in reaching out todayleave a comment, send an email, or contact a friend of yours that God may bring to mind as you read this post.

 Do not keep yourself “safe” but isolated in your journey in walking with God.  

Many blessings and opportunities await for those of us willing to be faithful to follow the Lord’s leading in all things!

My prayer is this:

May you grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

To him be glory both now and forever! Amen!

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To God be the GLORY!

Gina Marie 

 

 

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About the author

Gina Marie

Gina is thankful to be on the journey of Hope to be found in the LORD and His Word. She is blessed to be married to her precious husband Randy and to be the full-time homeschooling mom of three kids: one teen girl, one pre-teen girl, and one son still in the single digits. Her days are full and she is always trying to keep up with the details, but she wouldn’t have it any other way. When she isn't writing here, you can find her at http://ginaweeks.wordpress.com/.

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  • Angie

    I read your post and agree 100% BUT I don’t live my life like this. I sit and listening with genuine love and concern as so many women share their burdens with me. I smile, hug and pray with them but the roles seem to never be reversed. Yes, I find it difficult to trust another woman with my trials, burdens much less the joys. I would never share my marital struggles (though they are rare) with another person. I don’t want anyone to judge or think less of my husband. As for my own burdens, I find people feeling sorry for me or discussing me with others. Or they talk so much about their issues that they don’t even think that I might be struggling too. So I take my heavy heart to The Lord or to my husband and put on a smile in front of others.

    • Gina Marie

      Dear Angie,

      Forgive me for taking so long to write you back.

      I am so sorry that you feel like you don’t have a safe person in your life. I hesitated to open up and be real with others for SO long; I lived in fear of rejection and didn’t want to burden anyone. I am sorry you realize that people are feeling sorry and/or talking about you. I know that hurts a lot.

      You are very wise in using discretion in sharing about marital struggles with just anyone; I pray that if you ever need someone safe to help pray for and support you that the LORD will bring that special person/couple to you and your husband.

      Godly friendship and growing together as the Body of the LORD can be such a source of rich relationships and a blessing – but it takes us using wisdom to know what to share, when to share, and how much to share. We also have to trust the LORD to protect our vulnerability in being real with others…..

      Praying you have the peace and safety to feel like you can be authentic about your feelings. The LORD is always faithful and I know that taking your burdens to HIM is ultimately the best place to go, always. Having your husband as your support is also such a wonderful place to turn for prayer and encouragement.

      My sister, I pray for you and I am thankful that you left your comment. May God bless you and bring you all of His best for you.

      —Gina Marie

  • Nicole Anderson

    You completely described my life. I am always there for everyone who should need me, but it is a very rare moment when the roles are reversed. There are things within my heart that I would love to be able to share with a Christian friend, but so much fear is involved that I feel I can only take it to my Father. I do hope and pray that the Lord would guide a Christian friend into my life such as you have described with whom I could be vulnerable as I know the Lord works in our lives and in our hearts often times through the hearts of others. However, until He sees fit to do otherwise, “safe” is how I will remain. Love that hymn you started your post with, by the way. It is one of my favorites, one of my heart songs! Blessings to you for sharing this difficult to admit subject matter and your heart as well!

    • Gina Marie

      Dearest Nicole,

      I am sorry that I didn’t write you back for so long – please forgive me.

      I understand your fear; I also fight that. I am praying for God to bring that woman to you and for you to feel safe enough to open up and have a genuine, authentic friendship where you feel supportive and encouraged.

      Thank you for sharing that this hymn blessed you – now I know why God had me choose that for this post. Praise GOD!

      I am praying for you – God bless you and lead you into this blessings for you in every way.

      To God be the GLORY,

      Gina Marie

  • shannonwallace

    The Lord in a sense gives us many seasons in this life. Some we choose because of choices we make, others He leads us to when we listen to The Holy Spirit. I think of Mary Joy when I read this post. Actually, I can see myself too. Like Mary Joy, our family had a terrible loss as well. In those dark hours, I was reaching out to others and comforting them in hopes of leading them to Christ. I very much so see this in Mary Joy. But I also see that she is tired and probably needs a break. I’ve been through similar times. I had to in a sense isolate myself and step away from ministry for a while. After three years, I am just now stepping back into a ministry the Lord lead me to. All of this to say…I agree with you Gina Marie! We are only human, and we cannot possible shoulder the burdens we carry in our own personal lives plus the burdens of others. We can do ALL things through and with Christ’s help. However, I truly believe we need a season of solitude too. Meaning, we have that close friend or two whom we learn on and that is all. No shouldering others burdens. I hope this makes sense and doesn’t sound harsh. Yes, there is NO shame in asking a sister-in-Christ to pray for us and to be there for us. We cannot do it all!

    Thank you for writing this!

    • Gina Marie

      Dear Shannon,

      It completely makes sense to me; I know what you mean when you refer to the seasons that God has for us in life. I have lived through seasons of busyness in ministry and then have been brought to a place where I have needed the time of quiet and refreshment to refill me.

      Thank you SO much for sharing your heart and wisdom about this topic with us. Through CHRIST, we can do all things HE has called us to do, and each season will look unique as He leads us into His special calling for each of us.

      What a blessing to hear your thoughts. I am praying for you and am asking God to strengthen your heart as you seek to please and serve the LORD!

      To Thine Be the Glory!

      Gina Marie

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