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Jan 14 2013

Marriage Monday – Creating a Marriage of Grace and Love

Hand in Hand
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It has been over 11 years since I first put my hand into the hand of my husband, pledging to walk where God would lead both of us.  We have walked through valleys of loss together and come out on the other side, together.

We have lost a child, a parent, and a business, but during that same time we have been blessed to welcome two children, see new beginnings, and help each other stand up and keep walking when life seems to throw everything at us, trying to keep us down.

I know that with God’s help and protection, we will continue to walk this path of life together as long as we have each other.

 I know that  I don’t take my husband for granted.  What a precious gift he is to me and every day together is such a special gift.

I am living the dream of being a wife and momma – the dream I had since I was a little girl.  Sometimes I find that very hard to believe.

 

 

I want to think that I make our marriage a priority above everything else, put his feelings and needs first, make each day count, and see to it that I am intentionally building my marriage.

 

Many days, I think I am falling short, far short,  of what I *want* to be for my husband.

Even though I do my best, I want to *be* the best for him.

Each week in 2013, I will be seeking God to know how HE wants me to live out the calling

to be a woman of Grace and Love  - – -

as a wife, as a mother, as a woman on the journey.

   

 

I am so thankful for the wealth of encouragement and help we have to become Godly wives, mothers, and homemakers at our very fingertips.  I have a feeling that what I share tonight won’t be something new to our readers here; in writing this I wonder what I may be able to add to the marriage conversation in the blogosphere.

I want you to know that I am writing tonight to simply share my thoughts and feelings with you as I share how God is working in my life in this area in my marriage and in my home.

 

One of my favorite quotes about marriage comes from Martin Luther:

Let the wife make the husband glad to come home,

and let him make her sorry to see him leave. 

 

This quote brings to mind the verses found in Ephesians 5 that discuss the needs and responsibilities of the husband to the wife and the wife to the husband.  We have learned from many sources that the husband has a deep need to feel respected and appreciated by his wife and the wife needs to feel cherished and cared for by her husband.

In bringing this into the real world, in reflecting on the words of Luther, how can I as a wife make my husband glad to come home to me?  Well, I can think of many different ways that I can be a welcoming and loving wife, but there is one area in particular that I will share with you that I feel called to work on over the next week.

 

I want to make my master bedroom a lovely place, a haven, a retreat for us, to share together.

 

Sounds like a simple thing perhaps, and there may be many of you reading this shaking your heads and wondering how this could be a real world example of how a wife of 11+ years could try and make home a more welcoming and lovely place for my husband.

Life gets busy, boxes of stuff get shifted around, and sadly, many times my bedroom has been the place to put things that have no other place to go.  I spend the day working in other parts of the house and by the time I come to my bedroom, it’s time to fall into bed too tired to face that task!

No, I won’t share before and after pictures, but I will say that my room doesn’t feel like a haven to me, so I know it doesn’t to my hubby either.  We have worked hard to make the rest of the house comfortable and uncluttered since we moved into this house, but the master bedroom and bathroom has been sorely neglected!  I won’t say that the state of my bedroom reflects the priority I put on my marriage or the state of it’s health, but I aim to make it reflect how much I value our marriage and time together – - –  so the boxes and clutter must go!

 

Not my room yet, but such a beautiful, inspiring picture!

 

Did I lose anyone?  I hope not, and I also hope that for any women reading this article, single or married, that felt a tugging in your heart to make your master bedroom reflect beauty and serenity, that you will decide to follow God’s leading in this area for you and join me in working on making our bedrooms a welcoming place,

If you plan to join me, please leave a comment, letting me know how you plan to make your bedroom a haven of Grace and Love, a place our husbands will not want to leave.

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God bless you as you seek to bless others through His Grace, starting with His man for you,

 

Gina Marie

 

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About the author

Gina Marie

Gina is thankful to be on the journey of Hope to be found in the LORD and His Word. She is blessed to be married to her precious husband Randy and to be the full-time homeschooling mom of three kids: one teen girl, one pre-teen girl, and one son still in the single digits. Her days are full and she is always trying to keep up with the details, but she wouldn’t have it any other way. When she isn't writing here, you can find her at http://ginaweeks.wordpress.com/.

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  • Tandis

    I also love that quote by Martin Luther. So true too.

    As for our master bedroom, my husband was away for a weekend of hunting. I talked my mom into helping me repaint the bedroom while he was gone. Ran to the store and bought a new comforter set. Also made a new (very cool and easy) headboard. Changed the whole room! He was very shocked to say the least. We loved it…. but, that was 3 years ago and now it’s a clutter room again. Thanks for the encouragement to get it tidied up again.

    • Gina Marie

      God bless you, Tandis, for sharing this with me. Sometimes the simple things can have the most impact. It has been hard for me to admit that I have neglected our “Haven” – - – but together we can choose to recommit to taking care of the little things like this on a daily basis that will be such a blessing to our husband and marriage.

      God bless you!

  • Nan

    Hi Gina! I love that quote you used by Martin Luther. Excellent. Right now our bedroom is a sick haven, lol! Tissues and medicine and books and laptops….you name it. I think we will have to get over the flu first but after that, I totally agree about making our bedrooms a private haven just for us! Thanks for linking up to Making Your Home Sing Monday!

    • Gina Marie

      What a blessing to hear from you, Nan. I am grateful that God used these words to move your heart towards making a haven for your husband in your room together.

      To God be the Glory!