May 21 2013

Taking the time to remember – the Legacy of William Pershing

Yesterday was a special day in my family, as I know it was in Mary Joy’s family:  yesterday was Will’s first birthday in the Presence of God.   In so many ways, it was a quiet, reverent day for me as I looked back and remembered that day last June when my family was able to spend time getting to know Will, Mary Joy, Annie, Josh, and Michael for the first time; it was the day that the relationship we had online moved to a real-life, face-to-face, friendship!

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How precious and fragile is this life – - – and how important it is to take each day as a gift.

I took for granted that this special day could be just one of the first of many times that we were going to be able to spend together.  How was I to know that less than a month later our precious friends were going to be in the car accident that changed so much?  On that day in July, Will was ushered into the Presence of God while Mary and the boys survived as living miracles of God’s healing and Grace.

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I asked Mary if I could share my heart about how meeting her Will has touched my life and my family.  Thank you, Mary, for this opportunity to share my heart and, in my own small way, pay tribute to the life and legacy of this special man of God.

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It’s hard to know how to start this post – - – how can I in mere words share with you how Will Pershing impacted, and even to this day, still impacts, my life and the life of my family?

Yesterday would have been Will’s 46th birthday, so I felt like God would have me write 46 ways he made an impact on my life. 46 things I remember about Will.  46 things that will always mean “Will Pershing” to me…. even though I only met him once face-to-face in his home.

 

 

He was a man who made an impact on me, even in the short time I was blessed to know him…..

 

Here is my list, in no special order:

 

  1. Blogging
  2. Meeting Mary Joy THROUGH blogging – and gaining a sister of the heart
  3. Being able to blog WITH Mary here on this website that he gave her as a gift
  4. Ministry opportunities through the written word – through blogging  (see the blogging theme?) and Facebook
  5. Cherishing the Bible as your primary treasure in this world
  6. How to share the Treasure we have in God and His Word with others
  7. Learning the Books of the Bible THROUGH singing
  8. Using the Word of God to lead your family and make Godly decisions
  9. How to lead your family in family devotions
  10. Using media to bless your family
  11. Using media to bless others
  12. Being honest about your struggles as a person
  13. Knowing that in our weaknesses, HE is strong in us
  14. What it looks like to love your wife – in the way she needs you to
  15. How to be a great co-parent of your child – and enjoy the time you have with your daughter
  16. How to be a great step-father  - and then grow as the primary daddy of two boys who needed him so much
  17. How to support your wife as the mother of the children in the home
  18. How to teach your kids to respect women – by respecting them
  19. What it looks like to be strong and tender at the same time
  20. How to be a servant leader
  21. How to initiate family traditions
  22. How to make your kids laugh
  23. How it looks to reassure your wife of your love and fidelity
  24. How parenting means getting down on the level of your child to reach their heart
  25. How to reach and teach your kids
  26. How to have FUN
  27. How to laugh at yourself
  28. How to connect with others – and make your home a place of outreach to your community
  29. The music of Nathan Clark George
  30. Unconditional love
  31. Homemade salsa
  32. Homemade chili
  33. No-bake oatmeal cookies * See recipe below*
  34. Heart of Dakota Homeschool Curriculum
  35. A wife – his Mary Joy – who has drawn on his love and the Truth he shared with her to walk this new, unfamiliar road with peace in her heart
  36. A daughter – his Annie – who loves God and desires to serve Him more than anything else
  37. A son – his Josh – who got to experience the real, safe love of a daddy
  38. A son – his Michael – who knew no other daddy but his safe daddy
  39. How to make family your primary ministry
  40. Diet Pepsi (we liked the same soda pop!) and Iced tea
  41. How to draw healthy boundaries
  42. How to focus on building relationships more than your resume or your bank account
  43. How one decision in time can change your destiny
  44. How to focus on the important stuff – and let the other things go
  45. What it means to leave a Godly legacy
  46. Most importantly,  …. that when you leave this world and see the face of God, your legacy as a man or woman of God lives on in the lives you touched, the loving words you left behind, and that when you invest your life in the the lives of others, the ripples of your influence continue to spread out farther and farther until we all reach Heaven.

 

Thank you, God, for the gift of my brother in the Lord, William Pershing.

 

Husband to Mary.

Will and I in June 2012 -- surrenderedlivingnow.com

Father to Annie, Josh, and Michael.

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Loved son, brother, uncle, friend….

Man of God.

My hero!

 

Thank you, Will, for your legacy.  I am honored and blessed beyond words for all that you did to impact my life in the time that I knew you.

Grateful for you and your care for me and my family even on the day that we came to visit you – - – because of you, we were directed to take shelter from that storm that almost make us cancel our visit.  There is no way to know if you kept us from experiencing harm that day – - –  thankful for you listening to God’s leading and watching the storm for us, guiding us through the storm to safety, and eventually to your front door, unharmed and grateful.

God’s Presence was so real that day.  I think we all knew it.  Such a special, almost holy, time where You, Father God, were in our midst.  Such a gift for us to meet one another.  To have you impress God’s Truth upon our hearts.  To see the family God had given you to serve and love in your unique and Godly way.

To a man who finished the course and kept the Faith – - – well done, Will, well done.

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Psalm 37:23-24

New International Version (NIV)

23 The Lord makes firm the steps

    of the one who delights in him;
24 though he may stumble, he will not fall,
for the Lord upholds him with his hand.

 

2 Timothy 4:6-8

New International Version (NIV)

For I am already being poured out like a drink offering, and the time for my departure is near. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness,which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day—and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.

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 * No-Bake Cookies Recipe *

Courtesy of Annelyse Pershing, Will’s daughter

Cook 2 c. sugar, 2 T. Cocoa, 1 stick butter or margarine and 1/2 c. condensed or evaporated milk.

Remove from heat and add 1/2 c. peanut butter, 1 T. vanilla and 3 c. oatmeal.

Stir well until mixed and drop by teaspoonful on waxed paper. Let cool.

* I enjoyed making and eating some of these cookies yesterday when thinking of Will – and his life.  May you be blessed – by the Love of the LORD! *

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To God be the GLORY!

Gina Marie 

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May 18 2013

A.C.T.S.– A Call to Serve with Adventures in Odyssey!

{I wrote this post partnering with Adventures in Odyssey and Tyndale. I received Adventures in Odyssey Our Favorites in exchange for sharing their A.C.T.S.– A Call to Serve Summer Program and Contest as part of a Blog Tour. This is not a sponsored review and all views and opinions are of my own and were not influenced in anyway.}

A.C.T.S.

Summer is almost here! Can you believe it?

We homeschool year round so our 2012-2013 school year doesn’t end until the middle of June and we will start back up at the beginning of August. Even so, I do tend to approach the summer months of May, June and July as a time to do things a little differently. One of the things that Will and I began doing when we got married was to find opportunities for our family to serve God together throughout the year and continuing that very special legacy has been one of the most rewarding things we have done this year.

Josh and Michael have been excitedly coming up with ways to raise money to help the missions our church supports. Josh came up with the idea of having a yard sale and lemonade stand and donating the money to the mission funds at our church.  When he mentioned this to his Bible Club teachers they got excited about it and asked if the Kids for Christ Bible Club could get involved and help us. We were thrilled to have them join in, the more stuff and the more helpers that day the easier it will be…and I am always excited about working with other families to serve the Lord through serving others together.

My step-daughter, Annie, is getting ready to start collecting hygiene items for Generation Next again in June and our family is totally on board with finding ways to do that.

Josh packing our Operation Christmas Child shoebox for this past Christmas.

Josh packing our Operation Christmas Child shoebox for this past Christmas.

And don’t forget it is a lot easier to shop for Operation Christmas Child Shoeboxes during the back to school sales than in the rush of Christmas preparations!

One of the things that I have noticed with our family is that the more we find ways to serve the Lord through serving others the more we want to serve! And each time we serve together it bonds our family closer together and closer to the Lord. What better way to really teach our children about how much the Lord loves us and how He calls each one of us to serve others in our families, communities and around the world?

Jesus calls us to put hands and feet to our faith not just talk about it. In today’s world we are inundated with opportunities to indulge ourselves and focus on our own wants throughout the year but especially in the summer time. I know as a parent one of my greatest desires is that our children grow up to be men and a woman who are passionate about their relationship with the Lord and who are confident about how to live for Christ in their daily lives. From experience with my children and with the children and teens in the youth/children’s ministries I used to lead, I have found that working with and helping people and children who are less fortunate than we are makes a bigger impact on them than just talking about the importance of helping those in need. And I am amazed at how much of an impact summer service projects, big or small, have had on our own children and the children/youth I have met through ministry groups.

In a very real way, then, the best path toward building selfless, confident children is to help and encourage them toward a growing and thriving faith in God. And that includes obedience to what God teaches—not because it makes kids feel good, although it often does—but because they’re following God’s instructions to love Him and serve others. That builds a faith they can count on and carry with them into adulthood…and that is the greatest gift we as parents can give on our children.

So when I received an e-mail from Tyndale Blog Network asking me if Unwrapping His Grace would consider participating in the Adventures in Odyssey Blog Tour for A.C.T.S.– A Call to Serve this summer I was immediately interested! Talk about an answer to prayer!

When I told Josh and Michael about it they were bouncing with excitement! Read the rest of this entry »

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May 14 2013

New Beginnings…Our Daughter Graduates from High School

Annie and Michael 2009In July 2009, I had the incredible blessing of meeting the young lady who would become the daughter of my heart the following April. The photo above captures the instant love that happened between future big sister and her baby brother.  Annie was getting ready to turn fourteen and Michael was just fourteen months old. It was love at first sight with both little guys and they were in awe of her. And this young lady had my respect from the beginning. I will never forget her first question for me after she sent me a friend request on Facebook in May 2009…”Mary, I need to know what your intentions are with your relationship with my Daddy. I don’t want him hurt and he really cares about you.” Annie was very protective of her Daddy.  As the weeks went by the two of us had the opportunity to get to know each other better through our many conversations on Facebook and then through Google video chat when she was at her Daddy’s apartment. I will never forget getting to hug her for the first time when we met to go fishing together and have a picnic so we could get to know each other during the boys’ and my first road trip to the Ozarks with Will. And just as Will fell in love with Josh and Michael, Annie found a special place in my heart during that trip too.

Annie with Will in a picture they sent me in May 2009.

Annie with Will in a picture they sent me in May 2009.

Annie was the first person to tell Will that she thought he should marry me…and that was after a few weeks of communicating on-line and on the phone…before we met in person.  LOL She decided that we were right for each other and God was in it. Wow.

Annie as my maid of honor April 10, 2010

Annie as my maid of honor April 10, 2010

Annie’s love and protection of her family has grown to include me, Josh and Michael over the years. And I love her just as I love all three of my children. My love and respect for her has grown deeper over the four blessed years we have had together…from the time Will started courting me (May 2009). She is and always will be the daughter of my heart.

Last July, when I lay in the trauma unit in the hospital in St. Louis, Annie, her mom, and her dearest friends drove the many miles to be there with me the day after the accident…the day after her Daddy, my sweet husband, went home to the Lord. (without me asking her to come) My heart needed to see her so badly and it meant so much to me to have her and all of them there with me. Her mom had and friends had taken her to see her brothers at Children’s hospital before coming to see me so that they could tell me how they were doing. She knew I would be extremely anxious to know. (tears) She was so worried she would lose us too in the accident. She was there for us through phone calls and in person even while she was deeply grieving the loss of her Daddy and we have continued to spend time together when it was possible during her very busy senior year, even time together during Thanksgiving and Christmas. And she and her mom have stopped by our house on several occasions over this past year too. I will share more about God’s faithfulness in that in another post someday.

Over the past ten months, I am blessed beyond words by how our relationship has continued to grow.  I have been so blessed watching God’s work in her heart, mind and life over the past four years. It is her faith and relationship with the Lord that carried her through and grew and strengthened her faith through this very challenging year.

This past Saturday, this once young girl stood in front of a packed gymnasium as the beautiful young woman of God that she is today. Read the rest of this entry »

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May 13 2013

Mother’s Day Giveaway Winner Announcement!

It has been such a blessed week for me here as a writer on Unwrapping His Grace.  What an honor it has been to share the journey of being a Forgotten Mother with other women on the same path, grieving the loss of my child while also celebrating my blessings as a mom of three children here on earth.

I know it isn’t easy to share your heart and share your child’s name on such a public forum – - – and I want every woman to know, whether you commented here on the website or on the Facebook page, that I have prayed for each one of you and treasured your child’s name and memory that was you shared with me.

This next graphic is for you, the mommies who commented this week - – -   I took the information I was given from your comments and made a picture with each mommy’s name, along with the names of their children in heaven.  Eight different women commented on the blog posts this week – - – and between all of us, me included, we have 17 children in Heaven.

 

Every mom and every child are known by God.

Every mom and every child
are known by God.

(This graphic/picture was originally a gift to me, as an Angel mommy

by Perfect Chapter Laid to Rest, on Facebook.

I added the mommy and Angel-Baby names.)

Without further delay, here is the winner of our Basket of Blessings Giveaway:

Our Winner!

Our Winner!

 

Vivian McWhiney – - please contact us ASAP at my email address (tothinebetheglory@yahoo.com) – or – on Facebook by private message within 48 hours to make arrangements to receive your gifts!

Thank you to all who entered and blessed me by allowing me to get to know you and your children on a first name basis.  I am touched and moved beyond words by the response to this series this week. 

I encourage you to stay in touch with me and let me know how I can continue to pray for you and support you in your faith journey.  If you would ever be interested in joining an online support group for moms who are grieving the loss of a child, please contact me by email and I will get you connected.

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Here are some of my favorite links where I have received support and given back to other mommies in my journey as a mommy of an Angel:

 

  1. Kathe Wunnenburg‘s Books and her ministry of Hopelifters
  2. Sable’s Wings
  3. Owl Love You Forever
  4. Leigh’s Blankets
  5. Beanie for a Baby
  6. Designs by Held
  7. Perfect Chapter Laid to Rest 

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In case we have anyone reading who is NOT an Angel Mommy, I feel led to share the following tips on how to love and support a mom grieving the loss of a child, courtesy of this blog:

 

1. Fill her arms with something to hold.

2. Initiate communication, i.e.,  ”How are you today?”  However, don’t push conversation, she’ll talk if she wants/needs to.

3. Don’t say, “I know how you feel.”

4. Listen, even if what she has to say is something she has said a hundred times.

5. Always use the name of her child.

6. When words fail, share silence or a hug.

7. Always remember special days with a note or gift (Mother’s day, the due date, birthday, day the child passed)

8. Remember, you can always give your Presence & Prayer.

9. Give Kleenex, a CD, book, or personalized piece of jewelry with the child’s name engraved.

10. Don’t use the phrases “Everything is going to be OK” or “God just must have a different plan for you.”  They hurt more than they help.

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His Grace is sufficient for you.  II Corinthians 12:9

 

 May God comfort and keep you – may His Face shine upon you – and give you His Peace.

 

Gina Marie 

 

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May 12 2013

Walking Deeper through Psalm 23: A daily reflection for Moms who Grieve (part 6 of 6)

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Day 6: My Heart is Open to your Healing – You Restore my Life

Go here for the first five days of the series:

day 5

day 4

day 3

day 2

day 1

 

A Deeper Prayer

 

Lord, I thank you for Your Touch.

I am grateful for Your Word.

Today, You met me

In the secret-est part of me

That I have kept sacred for You, restoring my Hope.

 

Today, I have learned that I can forever cherish,

Love,

Remember,

Honor,

And Yearn for My Precious Child

With You there to comfort me in my mother-heart.

 

I know that I will never be the same -

Being their mommy has brought me closer to You. Read the rest of this entry »

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May 11 2013

Walking Deeper through Psalm 23: A daily reflection for Moms who Grieve (part 5 of 6)

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Day 5: My Heart is Still Unsure – Will You Take Care of Me?

day 4

day 3

day 2

day 1

 

A Deeper Prayer

 

I don’t know if I can surrender

My pain

My guilt

My sorrow

Or my grief.

 

If I choose to“move on” – - -

To take you at your Word

That in You I can find

Hope, Healing, Restoration, and Peace,

Won’t I be letting my baby down,

Forgetting my loss,

And, in all of the many big and bigger ways,

Allowing Life to make me forget how

I was touched by their life?

 

If I don’t remember- – -

Who will remember? Read the rest of this entry »

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May 11 2013

Walking Deeper through Psalm 23: A daily reflection for Moms who Grieve (part 4 of 6)

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Day 4:  I Find Sanctuary in Your Presence – Heal My Broken Heart

 

If you missed the other parts of this series, look here:

Day one

Day two

Day three

 

A Deeper Prayer

 

I remember walking in the shadows

When death touched my life -

Stole my dream -

Left me bleeding

In the dark-

I felt so alone.

My life changed forever on that day.

My life-light was stolen-

My innocence shattered-

My flesh – my baby – my own precious gift-

Was taken from me.

 

Why did you take them away from me?

How am I supposed to live another day without them here with me? Read the rest of this entry »

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